Daycare Update & “5 Ways Daycare is Supposedly Ruining My Kids”

In the beginning of our daycare search, I was filled with guilt. Guilt for not being able to stay at home with my babies, having to leave them in someone else’s hands, potentially missing out on milestones they hit, and overall just not being around for a majority of the days during the week. The anticipation of returning to work haunted me and I struggled with letting go. As a first-time parent, this was such a big deal for me and even though I received a lot of reassurance, it was way easier said than done.

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The boys sportin’ their super cool Wizards jerseys, their Dad’s 1a team

The boys have been in daycare for over three months now and they are doing awesome. When we drop them off, they are full of smiles and when we pick them up, they have even bigger smiles. We get good reports from their daycare provider. So far – knock on wood – they’ve really only gotten sick once and other times have just had a short run of sniffles or allergies.

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This is a frame my babies “made” me for Mother’s Day. I was teary-eyed because I was so happy and thankful their daycare provider is so sweet and thoughtful. Now my bare cubicle is so much more warm and fuzzy:

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With great timing, I came across this blog post from Ask Your Dad Blog: “5 Ways Daycare is Supposedly Ruining My Kids.” I couldn’t have laughed or cried harder. If you check out this post, you’ll understand how difficult it can be for first-time parents when faced with criticism and imposition from varying directions. I’m glad I found this article for not only a good laugh, but a reminder that the boys will be just fine.

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AJ’s first tooth!

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Adrian first tooth made its debut last week! Time is flying by so fast that both he and Jeremiah have their second ones peeking through. I really need to take a snapshot of these cute little teeth. I will certainly miss their toothless grins.

Starting solid foods

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Jer trying peas for the first time

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Adrian trying peas for the first time

 We have officially started on solids! WOW is what I have to say first. The world of introducing solids to your baby is as overwhelming as when we first learned we were pregnant. What foods to start with? Rice cereal or straight to fruits and veggies? Four months or six months of age? Homemade or pre-packaged? My head hasn’t spun this much since I first stepped into Babies R Us for our own baby registry! For now, we decided to introduce the babies to solids at six months (we began at the beginning of this month) and we skipped the rice cereal. After hearing there is not much (if any) nutritional value to rice cereal and it is merely to fill babies up and introduce them to the texture of food, and learning that it is OK and even encouraged to go straight to fruits and veggies, that’s what we did!

First food was peas. Believe it or not, but peas are one of my favorites. Ask any of my family members and they’ll tell you how I love eating the peas they pick out of their own meals and set at the edge of their plates for me! Next, we tried squash. Currently, we are working on sweet potatoes! So far, Adrian is getting the hang of things and even opens his mouth when the spoon gets closer to him! It’s so fun. Jer on the other hand is getting better each time. He is still making silly faces and isn’t showing us that he loves it. The key thing to remember during this time is “before one, it’s all for fun!” We are just practicing how to eat and the babies still get all of their calories/nutrition from breastmilk and formula.

First time getting sick

The babies got sick for the first time! I forgot who had the fever first, but both babies definitely were congested, had runny noses, and were coughing. Luckily, they were in good spirits and only had to miss daycare for two days. It’s certainly hard to see your babies sick. But in a weird way, I’m glad they did just so we can know what to expect and how to take care of them in the future. With daycare, we were warned they’d be getting sick often! The sickness definitely made its way around the house, affecting me and the hubs, too. We are just one sick family!

Work & daycare update

Being a working mom (and parent for that matter) is exhausting! I wish I could go back in time and slap the sillies out of my old self for complaining about being tired after work. Even worse, my old self when all I had to worry about was myself and going to school! I wouldn’t trade my current life for anything, but how carefree and naïve I realize one can be pre-children.

We’re slowly, SLOWLY getting into the swing of things. It’s such a big help to prepare things the night before to avoid a chaotic scramble in the mornings, but even with all the prep we do, it’s still a mad rush to get out of the house. There’s a constant juggle between getting enough sleep, getting out of bed and dressed for the day, waking/feeding/changing the boys, gathering all of our stuff, gathering all of the boys’ stuff… it’s such a huge ordeal! We’re certainly getting better at leaving the house in general, but during the week, it’s important to have everything since the boys will be at daycare all day and we will be at work.    

More pictures!

In no particular order of our recent events…

Took a walk around the block during my last week at home. Loving the boys’ new ride.

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The boys sporting their Monsters Inc. shirts!

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Jer doesn’t look too happy…

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There’s the Jer Bear smile!

Hanging out with the boys’ cousins… We checked out a new boba spot! The two kiddos on the right are twins also!

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Can you guess the flavors?!

The kiddos were in town for a bittersweet reason. Their great-grandmother, the hubby’s maternal grandmother, passed away at the end of January. We all felt at peace knowing she was no longer suffering and would be reunited with her husband, but we all felt sad to lose her and especially since she was the hub’s last grandparent. Here we are at the funeral:

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We’re so grateful the boys were able to meet their great-grandmother at the end of last year. We’re also blessed she was able to see us get married. She will forever be in our hearts!

The boys’ Lolo and Lola (grandfather and grandmother in Tagalog) visited because of the funeral. It was also bittersweet to have them back to see the boys.

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The twins with their Lola (hubby’s mom) and Granma (my mom)!

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And we can’t forget Auntie Ninang!

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A a fun little video was shared in my mommy group and I wanted to share it not only with my fellow moms, but all parents. A nice little reminder to breathe and enjoy parenting despite how hard it can be. It’s always a nice reminder that no matter what, our best is more than enough! More on mommy confidence HERE!

The twins at 6 months

AJ & JT @ 6 months

AJ & JT @ 6 months

The twins @ 6 months

We’re halfway around the sun!!! (Thanks for that phrase, Aur) 😉 It’s been 6 months since our babies were born. We’ve made it this far and couldn’t be happier. It’s been TOUGH! But with the most amazing husband, a wonderful village, and help from my fellow mommies, there really is nothing we can’t handle. And after we experienced planning for the boys first “big event” (their baptism), I feel ready to start planning for their first birthday! Yes, I know. It’s 6 months from now. But if the next 6 months fly by as fast as these last 6 months, then I am already behind in planning!

The boys are sick right now:( I am home from work to take care of them, hence the chance to write this post! See my quick work and daycare updates below!

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Adrian @ 6 months

Adrian @ 6 months

Adrian Joseph

Stats: 16.4 lbs, 26.4 inches

  • Adrian is breaking his first tooth! Hasn’t quite made it’s debut, but we can feel it.
  • Still sleeping through the night like a champ! Although the past few days have been rough since he is teething and sick.
  • Doing well at daycare. We get reports that he is eating more and more. He seems to be calm and happy when I pick him up, so that makes me calm and happy.
  • Still into his hand! He will stare at it, move it, wave it, bite it, and talk to it

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Jeremiah @ 6 months

Jeremiah @ 6 months

Jeremiah Tyler

Stats: 16.4 lbs, 27.4 inches

  • Jer got his first tooth! He had been fussier than usual in the days prior.
  • He is so silly and playful. It is easy to make him smile and laugh. His toothless grin and giggles are the most contagious thing ever.
  • He’s been waking up PLENTY of times during the night 😦 Hopefully it is just a phase from his cold and teething.
  • Starting to look at his hands, too. Very much into toys and grabs them within reach.
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Some random happenings in the past month…
The boys are definitely getting fussier and needy/clingy. Part of it can be due to teething, but we think they are just starting to be spoiled! Oh no! Here was Adrian at a friend’s house. He was inconsolable.
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Then check him out once we returned home:
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New wheels!!! We bought a new double stroller because it was recommended by the boys’ physical therapist. The carseats are too constricting and does not allow the boys the freedom to move their heads left to right very much. We took the stroller for its first spin at the mall… the boys had fun! They stayed awake almost the entire time and were constantly staring at the things around them.
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Oh the wonderful moments I come across with these two. I left the boys to go get breakfast one morning and found Jer with his feet up in his brother’s face. Let’s see if these kinds of things will predict their future personalities!
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One thing I’ll miss about staying at home (other than the boys, of course), is my mornings! I didn’t have time to prepare a full on breakfast, but this was the best I could do. Coffee, water, eggo waffles with butter & syrup, and some combination of sausage and bacon. I’m not proud of it, I could have done better, but it was yummy!
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My lunches sometimes looked like this: frozen foods (again, not proud), baby occupied with his play center, TV on, and pumping!
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Work update…
After having enjoyed these past months with the boys, it was time to return to work!
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I was so blessed to have been able to stay at home for not only the first 6 months of the boys’ lives, but an extra three months due to bed rest. Granted, the actual bed rest was not fun, but it was so fortunate that my job was protected and I was able to get off my feet at such a critical time during the pregnancy. I started work last week. It’s been going very well! Surprisingly and luckily, I didn’t cry at all and I actually (guiltily) enjoyed the break from my last 9 months at home. It was great seeing my co-workers again, having adult conversations, dressing up in the morning, and even listening to the radio on my commute there!
A big reason why things went well is because we had the boys go to daycare for a few hours a day during the last three days I had at home (Wed-Fri). This helped transition the babies into a new setting, learn more about the needs of daycare and our needs as well, the logistics of packing up supplies and scheduling the drop off in order to get to work on time, and, most importantly, mentally and emotionally prepare! I was so torn between not wanting someone other than myself to take care of my babies for such a long time (practically 11 hours a day during the week) and also wanting to return to my career. But I had to look at the positives: I was grateful for an amazing 6 months with the boys when not every parent can stay home that long, I actually had a job to return to and it is one I really enjoy, and the boys would get exposure to other kids and they’d be taken care of by providers who a professionals at caring for babies and can give them more attention than I could. I’ve only been at work a few days, but already I can understand how things do get easier as time goes by and it is such a great feeling coming home to my babies and spending the entire weekend with them.
Daycare update…
Daycare itself is going well. I reflect on my feelings about daycare and realize now that I was just a hot mess coming to terms with someone else watching the boys and me having to be away from them for so long. But they are doing well and we are getting good reports from their provider. I made such a big deal out of their first day, even though they were in daycare for only 3.5 hours!
Daycare Day 1:
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Things were going so well, I don’t think I took a picture on Day 3! 🙂
It’s so amazing arriving home to these monkeys…
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